Ask The Black Woman Intro

Dear Black WOman,

Does size really matter for both men and women when it comes to between the legs?

Dani


Black Woman:

Thank you Black Man for the introduction! You've read his answer....now read mine.

Now, Dani - This question has been asked a million times, and the honest answer is - YES! It matters! I think the real question should be - HOW MUCH does it matter?

I think most women would agree that they'd love to have a great man with a 12 inch penis who can put it down like Shaft. But the reality is, most men do not have 12 inch penises. They don't have 10 inch penises. They barely have 6 inch penises. But women don't hold out for the man with the 10 inch penis for two reasons - 1) We don't buy into the myth and 2) When we're in love, we don't care. Women tend to be a bit more forgiving in that area when our feelings are involved. It's not until after we break up that we're calling him a "lil dick muthaf*cka!" But if the man is a good man and we're in love, then his size may be an issue that we'd be willing to overlook or work with. Now, if he's packing 2 inches of penis, then we might not be able to get past that. But if he's between 5-7, then it's HOW he works it that matters.

Penis size is relative. Some consider 5 inches average while others think that size is small. It depends on the woman - what does she have to compare it to? Is she a petite woman? Is small considered "length" or "girth?" You have to decide that for yourself.

Once you determine what you consider to be small, then pay attention to how attentive a lover this man may be. Most men who know or think that they're small usually try to make up for it other ways. They spend more time during foreplay to please a woman. They may have great oral sex skills. If he compensates for his "shortcomings" in other ways, then I don't think size matters that much. But if he's a selfish lover, then it doesn't matter what size he is.

If you can't get past a man who has a small penis, then you have to be honest about the reasons why. If he is truly great in every other way, and you still decide not to be with him because of his physical inadequacies, then either you aren't being creative enough or you're really just not that into him. It matters only to the extent to which you let penis size DICK-tate your relationships.

-Black Woman